Had the first of one of those awkward "being-hit-on-but-trying-to-be-nice-while-saying not-interested" moments today. This guy at work, it was obvious he was attracted to me, but I always figure it will just be one of those situations where iit is not talked about and nothing comes of it therefore no worries on my behalf in having to express my lack of interest and thus creating unwanted awkwardness.
Unforunately that wasn't the case for this particular gentleman. He asks me straight up my relationship status and even though I include within that explaination of my singledom that I am not interested it messing with anyone, that I am a loner and like it that way, not even five minutes later he is telling me how pretty I am and all that crap I have heard before.
I tried to subtly point outthat looks don't matter to me and therefore compliments toward my looks mean very little, I don't think he realized that he had already struck out with me by what he considered flattery, I'm sure.
He then flat out asks if I would date a "black man" as if that would be the prime reservation I would have in the matter, and I have to explain again, in more detailed and pointed language that I am not interested in dating anyone. He tries to make out that it could be a casual thing, we could just go out and have a bite to eat and hang out, but I am very honest and say that he is coming at it from an expectant place.
I let him know if it was purely friendship, I wouldn't mind going out to eat and such, but I don't know if he got it. He insisted on walking me to my car when I got off work. Can't think of too many of my friends who do that.
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